When reading the title of this post, you might think I’ve put it under the wrong category since staging your home is usually something you do before selling it.
But truly, this is one of the best ways to care for your husband and show him respect when he walks through your door!
I feel so blessed to be a stay-at-home mom and know that it is only possible because my husband works so hard everyday.
Of course, I am working hard too, but I am doing it with my sweet Heidi and compared to some of the people he has to deal with everyday…well, there is no comparison! Let me just say again, I am soooo blessed!
My sweet husband works at least ten hours a day, on top of a two hour commute going back and forth to work. He is surrounded by difficult people, stress and thinking about how much time he is missing with his sweeties all day long!
The least I can do, as his help-meet and homemaker is to do my best to make our home his oasis…peaceful and refreshing. My journey toward that goal (a journey I am still in right now) is what I want to talk about today.
Get the motivation
I have a nine month old and am five months pregnant…some days I am so tuckered out by the end of the day. I know there are mothers out there with many more children and stresses then I have, and getting the motivation to transform your home every evening isn’t naturally there!
The first tip I want to give is that you reference my post on my cleaning routine. If you keep up with your daily and weekly cleaning, your home will not require a total transformation when your husband calls to say he is on his way home.
But on that note, another tip that has helped me is asking my husband to call when he is leaving work. Depending on how far away your husband works will determine how much you can leave to do after that call. But it will ensure that you aren’t caught off guard when he walks through the door and chaos is still ensuing!
But no matter how much I keep up with the cleaning, there are still days I need an extra motivation to set myself and my feeling aside and create that oasis for my man.
This might seem basic, but that is when I have to remind myself of my blessings. Because my husband works so hard, I do not have to drop my sweet daughter off at daycare with strangers. If my husband wasn’t willing to do what he does, I would not be able to take such good care of our home and family. There is no where my husband would rather be then with me and our daughter, but he chooses to be gone 12+ hours a day because he loves us so much.
Yes, I am feeling MUCH more motivated now!
Listen for the hints
There are some basic staging tips for a home when you are trying to sell it. They don’t get super personal because you don’t know who is going to walk through your door.
But a wife has an advantage! She knows the person walking through her
door…hopefully better then she knows anyone else on earth! So take advantage of that.
Not only can you make your staging personal but it needs to be ever changing depending on the “hints” your husband drops for you.
For example, when our daughter had to be switched to formula and started eating solids, the diapers became a bit more smelly. I heard my husband mention the odor a couple times and so began my research.
Through trial and error, I have discovered the best solution is using a plastic grocery bag to put her diapers in during the day. When he calls to say he is on his way home I change her diaper one more time, take out the plastic bag to the big garbage can, and light a scented candle in the nursery. Problem solved!
Make the plan
My daily routine now includes a list to accomplish after hubby calls to say he is on his way. It goes something like this:
- He calls to say he is coming home…STAGING TIME!
- Turn down the A/C (he likes it cooler)
- Light three candles spread throughout the house so he enters to a great aroma
- Change the baby’s diaper, clothes and put a ribbon in her hair
- Take out dirty diapers and replace the plastic bag
- Do a final straighten of the house and kitchen
- Do any necessary meal prep
- Turn on some softer music
- Check my appearance
- Five minutes before he gets home we wait by the window so Heidi can see her Daddy as soon as he arrives!
Obviously, this plan will look different for everyone and will be constantly changing. But no matter how small your house (I did this in our tiny apartment) or limited your budget, this will make your husband feel so warm, invited and appreciated.
I would love to know…what ideas do you have to make your home an inviting place? Any cool ideas for a low budget or growing families?