If you have been following this blog for a bit you will know that I have been writing about a book called Created to be His Helpmeet. I actually gave my thoughts on three different chapters (you can read them here, here, and here).
I could have continued giving thoughts on the entire book because there is so much that I have learned from it and been convicted on. But I have started a new book since then and have found just as many amazing nuggets in it…so I decided three posts per book would be sufficient.
I don’t know about you, but I have a stack of books a mile high that I want to read and I can’t wait to tell you about all that I am learning!
The book that I recently started is called Living Virtuously by Erin Harrison. The description for the book is “A Wife’s Complete Guide to Keeping Her Heart and Home” and I have found it to be very accurate! Erin is incredibly down-to-earth because she gives account of how she has learned most of what she is sharing the hard way. There is no pretense or holier-then-thou…she says “been there, done that” and gives hope for a glorious marriage and home despite where you are beginning.
What is virtue?
I have gotten over halfway through the book but when I was deciding which chapters I wanted to cover the first one really stood out to me. Some major eye-opener here!
The theme of the book is following the example of the Proverbs 31 wife who was described as virtuous. So the first question we must ask is “what is virtue?”
Think about our society today. It is truly falling to new depths of perversion and sin every day. Things that our forefathers would never have imagined to be acceptable or appropriate is now the norm.
- Killing babies for profit
- Popular TV shows glorifying drug culture
- The medical ability and support to completely switch genders physically
- Pornography being pushed on every street corner
- Marriage being completely redefined
- Every lie in the book being taught as fact in our public school system
This is a dark world and that makes it even more important for the light of Christians to shine. So the way she painted it, if there is a fence with the evils of the world being on one side, in order to be virtuous we need to be as far on the other side as possible!
We don’t need to be meandering close to it by watching movies that let foul thoughts into our home. There is no reason to lean against that fence by holding grudges against our husbands or giving negative words to our children. And we certainly better not sit on top of that fence and start justifying any sin in our life simply because it looks a little better then those who are completely over the line.
NO! God didn’t save us so that we could be mediocre Christians that blend in the crowd. He never intended for us to have miserable marriages or horrible relationships with our children. He wants our lives to be blessed and our homes to be a place of rest.
Virtue is truly a very broad term but if we are in tune with Christ it can change every area of our life!
My word is my bond
One example that Erin gave in this chapter of standing out from the world is to be trustworthy and keep your word.
Sounds obvious, right?
I doubt there is one among us that would ever want to break our word or say less then we mean. But think about it…
Have you ever seen someone that you hadn’t seen for a while and say, “we should get together sometime” but never really intended to follow up?
Has there ever been a time that you had an appointment or commitment but when the time rolled around you were in the middle of something so you canceled or no-showed?
How many times have you inaccurately predicted how long it would take to get the kids ready so you could get where you needed to get on time?
The wake-up call that I received from this chapter was that my word needs to be my bond in every season of life. I want everyone who crosses my path to know that I can be trusted and if I am asking them to put me on their schedule at a certain time I will follow through.
But this has another level of importance as a wife because I am a representative of my husband the same way I am a representative of Christ. If I lead a sinful life I am giving the world a bad image of Christ and if I am not dependable I am giving the world the impression that my husband chose a flake as a wife.
But what does all of this have to do with $6 million???
God says in His Word, “Who can find a virtuous wife? Her worth is far above rubies.” I would say her worth AND her rarity could be compared to rubies.
The most expensive ruby on earth right now is worth $6 million…we have the potential to be so much more valuable to our husbands then we could ever imagine!
So I’m asking myself today, “What is an area in my life that should be more virtuous?”